Finding the Balance: A Principal, a Mom, and the Beautiful Chaos in Between

As an assistant principal at a high school of over 1,500 students in grades 10 through 12, there is no such thing as a “slow season.” Right now, our spring play is in full swing, spring sports are buzzing, and every hallway seems to carry the energy of a school that never truly sleeps. I’m supervising events fairly consistently, helping seniors navigate their final push toward graduation, and juggling the day-to-day unpredictability that comes with this job.

And when the final bell rings? I’m off to coach my daughter Bexlee’s softball team, cheer for my son Kixsen from the sidelines of his latest soccer or baseball game, or help with math homework at the kitchen table. Bexlee is 8, Kixsen is 7, and both are involved in more activities than I can count. My husband, Cameron, is also an assistant principal—at the middle school that feeds into my high school. Between the two of us, we juggle two demanding careers, two active kids, one chaotic shared Google Calendar, and a home that’s never quiet—but always full.

I’ve come to deeply understand something I used to only talk about in theory: the importance of work-life balance.

It’s easy in education—especially in leadership roles—to let work creep into every corner of your life. There’s always another email to answer, another supervision assignment, another student or staff member who needs you. It’s fulfilling, meaningful work. But if we’re not intentional, it can consume us.

I’ve learned (often the hard way) that creating boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. I’ve learned to say no to certain things, so I can say yes to the most important ones. I’ve learned that missing a meeting to make it to my daughter’s game isn’t just OK—it’s essential. I’ve learned that taking time to be a mom, a wife, and even just me, makes me a better assistant principal.

What I’ve also discovered is that our students benefit when we model balance. They’re watching us. When they see us prioritize family, health, and rest, they learn to do the same. When I talk to students about managing stress or making healthy choices, I want to speak from a place of authenticity—not burnout.

There’s no perfect formula, and I certainly don’t have it all figured out. Some weeks feel like a whirlwind, and I rely a little too heavily on drive-thru dinners and coffee refills. But I also see the joy in a student taking a bow on stage, the pride in my daughter’s face after a great hit, and the sleepy hug from my son after a long day. Those are the moments I treasure.

So to my fellow educators, parents, and busy professionals: give yourself permission to unplug. Protect your peace. Be present where your feet are. And remember—balance isn’t about doing it all; it’s about doing what matters most.

And to the students and families we serve: thank you for allowing us to be part of your village. You’re a part of ours, too.

A Night to Remember: Leading Prom at One of Iowa’s Top High Schools

Prom night. It’s a rite of passage, a celebration of youth, and—for school administrators—a masterclass in event coordination, student engagement, and leadership under pressure. As the assistant principal of one of the largest and highest-achieving high schools in Iowa, I recently had the honor of supervising our prom—and what a night it was.

From the moment students began arriving in everything from stretch limos to well-loved pickup trucks, the energy was electric. Our prom committee, made up of dedicated parents and staff, worked for months to create a safe, inclusive, and unforgettable experience. This year’s theme was “Disco,” and our venue was transformed into a glowing skyline of lights, music, and community spirit.

But prom wasn’t just about decorations and dance moves. For school leaders like myself, these large-scale events are opportunities to foster culture, build relationships, and demonstrate that safety and celebration can go hand-in-hand.

Safety First, Fun Always

Before the music started, the behind-the-scenes logistics were in full swing. We partnered closely with local law enforcement, our school staff team, and parent volunteers to ensure a secure environment from start to finish. Every entrance was monitored, transportation was coordinated, and students knew we were there not to police their fun—but to protect it.

After Prom: The Ultimate Incentive

The highlight of the night, however, came after the dancing ended. Our school hosted an After Prom event that kept hundreds of students safe, entertained, and well-fed until the early morning hours. Activities ranged from casino tables and inflatable obstacle courses to endless pizza and prizes. 

And the grand finale? We gave away a car. Yes, you read that right—a real, drive-it-home vehicle donated by a generous local dealership. That moment alone turned After Prom from “a nice idea” into the most talked-about event of the year.

Leadership in Action

Supervising prom requires more than just being present. It’s about being visible, approachable, and proactive. I greeted students at the door, danced with our chaperones (badly, I might add), and walked the perimeter more times than I can count. I offered encouragement to nervous first-timers, kept an eye on the quieter students in the corners, and high-fived everyone brave enough to hit the dance floor.

It’s in these moments—outside of class, beyond curriculum—that we connect with students on a different level. They see us not only as administrators, but as people who care deeply about their experience and their safety.

Why It Matters

Prom night may seem like a single evening, but its impact can be lasting. It reinforces school pride, strengthens community ties, and celebrates the resilience, growth, and spirit of our students. And for school leaders, it’s a reminder of why we do what we do: to support, uplift, and champion every student’s story.

As we continue to lead one of Iowa’s most high-achieving schools, events like prom serve as a testament to what’s possible when students, staff, and the community come together. We don’t just plan a party—we build a memory.

And if there happens to be a free car involved? Well, that’s just Iowa excellence at its finest.